DREAMS AND CONVERSATION: EMPHASIZING THE EFFORT, NOT THE END RESULT
Do you ever feel as though you keep hearing the same song over and over again – on TV, on the radio, you hear people humming it, Pandora seems to be playing it all the time?
For me, that song is “Dream On” by Aerosmith. I am sure it has something to do with the fact that Steven Tyler will be performing in concert next month. But I can’t help wondering if the universe is trying to tell me something. Lately, I have been pondering a lot of stuff – mostly girl-empowerment stuff and dreaming of all the places I can take Grace & Grit. What have I not thought of? What dreams do I have for this company?
Then along comes Sunday Night with Megyn Kelly. With the Megyn Kelly controversy aside, one of her stories last Sunday covered the findings of two researchers out of NYU and Harvard. They conducted a study that found as girls get older, they tend to revert to stereotypical views on genders. Girls five and younger believe females are the smartest gender. However, by the age of six, girls start to believe males are smarter than females.
Yep. This feminist found herself with her jaw on the floor. It’s 2017 and there is still a gender bias when it comes to academia? Young girls believe men are smarter than women. Girls believe their own gender is the less-intelligent gender. To throw salt into the wound, one girl interviewed by Megyn Kelly had already decided she was not a good leader. She was seven. S-E-V-E-N.
The episode wasn’t even over and my brain kept dreaming up questions:
Why is this still happening in 2017?
How deep does this stereotype go?
Where is the root of the problem?
What do girls need to hear?
What do parents need to hear?
What does society need to hear?
What does the world need to hear?
What is a solution to this problem?
But then, the researchers gave me a nugget! When Megyn Kelly asked, “What do we do?” one of the researchers suggested emphasizing the EFFORT it takes to get work accomplished, not the end result. Ummmm, in case you haven’t caught on to my way of thinking – effort is just another word for GRIT. I got a little excited about that but then the other researcher gave me something I could dream about; he said, “(Expose your daughter) to female role models that exhibit what would be called brilliance. It makes any setbacks that you might encounter as a girl sting less because there is at least one person that you have been exposed to that is of your own gender that has succeeded.”
HA! I don’t have THE solution but I have A solution:
Conversation. A conversation with your daughter about her brilliance, her potential, her efforts.
Grace & Grit is a conversation waiting to happen. A conversation about the efforts of women, the grit it takes to accomplish a goal, the grace you must have for yourself when you do not succeed. Grace & Grit is a conversation that digs at the roots of this problem… Grace & Grit is a shovel. Use it to tunnel through the social media bias. Use it to dig past the stereotypes your girl encounters. Use it to unearth your daughter's dreams! Dream with her about a time when she can use her brilliance to change the world. Dream on, moms. Dream on!